Okay, three men can totally have a strong, emotional, and sexual relationship. Because let's be real, any couple in one-to-one relationship has ups and downs, good days and bad days, right? Some choose not to live together because they think they drive each other crazy. Some look for a father figure in their partner, a son figure, whatever. At the end of the day, finding what works for you and your partners...anything can be possible.

Conversations Between Three

So you have an equal three-way love relationship, you gotta be totally honest, right? From the get-go, you gotta lay all your cards on the table. Each guy has to know where the others stand.

What are the expectations from the other two? Can two of us have sex without the other? What are the boundaries? Sort out all that kind of thing early so you can avoid misunderstandings later on. Be open and upfront, and make sure the other two are also open and upfront, so everyone feels secure.

Communication doesn't stop at the first conversation. Regular check-ins will also be needed. Life changes and feelings change, so it's good to keep everyone in the loop. Something small that’s bothering you or you just want to move out... Keep the lines of communication open to keep the relationship strong.

For example, if you all decide to have a weekly meeting where everyone gets a chance to speak their mind. One of you might feel overwhelmed with work and need more support at home. Another might feel left out because the other two are spending more time together. The meetings give everyone a chance to voice their concerns and make sure that no one feels neglected.

Sharing Life Together

Three people in a relationship means three different lives coming together. It’s pretty cool because it means more experiences, more stories, and more fun. Sharing hobbies, planning trips, or just hanging out, there’s always something new happening.

Needless to say, day-to-day stuff is important too. Just like a normal couple, sharing responsibilities around the house, making decisions together, finances... We've all got to remember the small, everyday things make life better.

Let’s say you decide to cook dinner together every night. But one of you sucks at cooking, then come up with something else that they can do - washing up, cleaning, or other chores while the other two are cooking. Then you'll not only make dinner preparation faster and more fun, but you also know that the three are one. 

Don't forget about personal time though. It doesn’t mean you have to be together all the time. Having some personal space is healthy. It lets each person recharge and come back to the relationship feeling good.

The Emotional Connection

With three people, there’s extra emotional support to go around. You have more shoulders to lean on when things get tough, and more hearts to share your happiness with.

Everyone has different ways of showing and receiving love. Some guys might be more into words, others might show love through physical expressions, and some might value quality time together. You'll soon figure out each person’s love language and how to make each other feel appreciated.

If one of you has a bad day at work, the others can offer comfort. Maybe one partner is good at giving pep talks while the other excels at offering a calming presence with a physical tough. This combination of support ensures that the guy who had a rough day feels cared for.

The Sexual Dynamic

Okay, the sexual side of things. With three guys, there's a lot of potential for different combinations. You'll get to know how everyone is comfortable with and what everyone enjoys. 

Not everyone likes to talk about it though - likes/dislikes and fantasies. Instead, we often show what we want to do by actually doing it during the performance. But you know what, you want to make the sexual relationship a sustainable one. You want to give pleasure to both the partners but the perfect harmony cannot exist with a sacrifice by one of you. So at the end of the day, verbal communication will be needed at some point.

Set up a regular date night where all three of you explore each other's fantasies in a safe and consensual manner. Maybe one night, you try something new that one partner has always wanted to experience. The openness will strengthen your sexual connection.

And let’s not forget about safety. It's really difficult for three of you to trust yourselves absolutely 100%. One might feel like having a fling outside the relationship - how you feel about it is one thing, but the safe-sex issue become something to be extra mindful of. Regular check-ups, open discussions about health, and being responsible are part of taking care of each other.

Dealing with Jealousy

Jealousy happens in any relationship, and it’s no different with three guys. The main thing is how it’s handled. Talk about jealousy honestly helps in dealing with them before they become a big problem.

We all want to be in a relationship with someone, what for? To find a sense of security, right? 

People break up for all sorts of reasons, but it's always the beginning of the end when you feel not valued, not loved, and feel left out. You gotta make sure all three of you feel safe in the relationship. Not restricting each other because that's the other reason for a breakup, but taking care of each other, basically, so no one's jealous.

You might want to choose a quiet time and have a one-on-one time with each partner every week, for instance. Pay attention to each other in turn. We all need it.

Making It Work

So how can a three-person relationship work, really? Here are a few things that you can give a try.

1. Rotating Roles: For example, one of you takes on the role of the planner for a month, organizing dates. The next month, another person takes over. The rotation ensures that everyone gets a chance to lead.
2. Triad Activities: Make sure you have something that involves all three of you equally. A three-player board game, a team sport where you all play together, gardening or DIY home improvements.
3. Group Decision-Making: Make sure each person has an equal say and everyone's happy. Ask them if they're happy. Just say "Are you happy with this? You sure?" We so assume of everything, we forget to ask!)
4. Three-Way Conversations: Practice having three-way conversations where everyone gets to speak and listen equally. This is different from a couple where it’s easier to have back-and-forth dialogue.
5. Rotational Play: This is fun. Each person should be treated specially in turn. Set aside some nights where two partners focus on the third one, let him have the best he wants. Or, set aside some nights where two focus on each other while the third gets personal time and enjoys solo activities. Whatever you decide.
6. Mediator Role: Introduce the concept of a mediator within your trio. When conflicts arise between two partners, the third can act as a neutral party to help resolve issues. The mediator should not agree or disagree with either of the other two. It's a good way to manage disputes without escalating tensions.
7. Triple Celebrations: Host triple celebrations for events like anniversaries. You acknowledge the start of each relationship within the triad. This means having multiple anniversaries to celebrate. You'd better write them all down though, so you won't neglect any of them.

Thé Ménage à Trois - Final Words

Some people say a three-men relationship breaks away too much from traditional norms so it doesn't work... But what relationship is easy, anyway?

Millions of couples break up every day, because love and connection come in many forms. We hear about toxic relationships all the time - too many people settle for the wrong partner, only to face a future of constant arguments, potential domestic violence, and even police involvement.

And those people say thé ménage à trois is wrong - what makes them think they have the right to say that?