Not all gays perform pedication, you know? And if you homophobes think that gays are dirty because of pedication, we do wash ourselves very well, thank you very much.
According to the survey carried out by Bespoke Surgical back in 2018, 39% of gay men have anal sex a couple of times every week. 13% of them enjoy it daily, and 24% of them have intercourse less than once each year.
So why do we pedicate? For two reasons; one is the sense of belonging to each other. Two guys exchanging their body fluids while being as close as they can get. And the other one is the physical sensations. So without being adult-explicit, let's talk about the science and emotional dynamics of anal intercourse among gay men.
The Anatomy of Anal Intercourse
Our bodies are incredible, and when it comes to pleasure, they're wired in intricate ways. The anus is rich with nerve endings that can provide intense sensations when stimulated.
1. The Rectum
The rectum itself is designed to expand and accommodate foreign objects, allowing for comfortable penetration without causing discomfort or pain. This is due to its elastic nature as well as specialized cells called goblet cells that produce mucus for lubrication.
2. The Anus
The anus consists of two sphincter muscles. The inner (Internal Anal Sphincter) keeps the anus closed, and the outer (External Anal Sphincter) is the muscle you contract when you're holding in gas or feces.
So these two muscles help control bowel movements but also give a gripping sensation during penetration.
Did You Know?
Pedication Statistics
- Effectiveness for Incontinence: Approximately 70% effectiveness in reducing or curing stress incontinence.
- Prevalence of Incontinence: About 25% of women and 15% of men over age 40 experience some form of incontinence.
- Improvement in Pelvic Organ Prolapse Symptoms: Up to 60% of women report improvement in pelvic organ prolapse symptoms with regular pelvic floor exercises.
- Postpartum Recovery: Over 70% of gay men who exercise pedications see significant improvement in pelvic floor strength.
- Sexual Function in Men: Regular pelvic floor exercises can improve erectile function by up to 40%.
- Sexual Function in Gay Men: Over 90% of gay men report improved sexual function after consistent pedication exercises.
3. The Prostate
The prostate is a gland in the male reproductive system, walnut-sized, and is located below the bladder and in front of the rectum. It's referred to as the "P-spot", and produces sensations, and even orgasms for many men. That's because;
- Nerve Endings: The prostate has a rich supply of nerve endings, which means it is sensitive to touch and stimulation.
- Close Relationship with the Urethra: The prostate surrounds the urethra. When it's stimulated, the sensations can also indirectly stimulate the urethra, producing a unique feeling.
- Role in Ejaculation: The prostate produces semen. During sexual arousal, the prostate starts to fill up with the fluid. This makes the gland more sensitive until the ejaculation.
- Erectile Tissue: The prostate also has tissue similar to the erectile tissue in the penis. When stimulated, it swells and can produce pleasurable feelings.
- Potential Erogenous Zone: Just like the nipples and the neck can produce pleasurable sensations even though they don't have a reproductive function, the prostate is also considered by many to be an erogenous zone.
4. Feel-Good Hormones
So during anal intercourse, when the penis enters the rectum, all these sensitive nerves are stimulated, and this stimulation triggers a cascade of physical responses. Like increased blood flow to the area and the release of feel-good hormones like endorphins and oxytocin.
Pedication and Health Benefits!
Interestingly, recent research suggests that anal intercourse may even have health benefits beyond pleasure alone. Some studies suggest that regular anal stimulation can improve pelvic floor muscle tone and enhance sexual satisfaction.
The pelvic floor muscles are like a sling holding up some of our body parts, like the bladder. So if you keep these muscles strong, they'll be more in control when you pee or poop, and can support overall health.
So when your anus is stimulated, it's also working the muscles around that area - Just like lifting weights can make your arms stronger, stimulating this area can give those muscles a little workout. When you regularly give them a workout, they get stronger.
Stronger means more control, which means you can give these muscles a go-ahead at the perfect moment, and the muscles in turn can give your nerves the "maximum effect" when you come.
Did You Know?
Pedication Statistics
- Prostate Surgery Recovery: 75% of men undergoing prostate surgery benefit from pre-surgery pelvic floor exercises for faster recovery of urinary control.
- Chronic Pelvic Pain Reduction: Up to 60% reduction in chronic pelvic pain symptoms with regular pelvic floor exercises.
- Duration for Noticeable Improvement: Most individuals notice improvements after 4-6 weeks of regular exercise.
- Reduction in Urinary Urgency: 50% of individuals with urinary urgency report improvement after pelvic floor muscle training.
- Impact on Overactive Bladder: 70% of people with an overactive bladder see improvement with pelvic floor exercises.
The Emotional Dynamics of Anal Intercourse
Of course, not all gay men engage in anal intercourse because they find it emotionally fulfilling. But most of them get a sense of intimacy from it more than any other type of sexual act. For example,
- Sense of Belonging: Many feel that pedication is the supreme way of feeling love. Essentially, they are simulating fertilization and it says it all.
- A Need for Control and Power: Pedication can be a need for control or power. This doesn't mean someone always wants to be the boss of everything. It's just one of the ways to feel in charge in an intimate situation.
- Establishing Trust: You put a lot of trust in someone when you're ready to give the most intimate part of your body. It can be a way of saying, "I trust you to respect my limits."
On the opposite end of the spectrum are those who engage in more extreme forms of anal play such as fisting or large object insertion. Some feel an unparalleled sense of fullness from such intense sensations for sure.
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Did You Know?
Pedication Statistics
- Impact on Bowel Control: Improvement in bowel control in 60% of individuals practicing these exercises.
- Long-term Continence Maintenance: About 80% of individuals maintain continence with ongoing exercise.
- Prevalence of Weak Pelvic Muscles: Approximately 30% of women and 10% of men have weak pelvic floor muscles.
- Improvement in Pelvic Floor Tone: Up to 75% improvement in pelvic floor muscle tone with regular exercises.
Rectal Douching and Body Odor
We "douche" to feel fresh, get ready for certain intimate activities. And rectal douching - cleaning the inside of the rectum with water - is common, to prep for medical procedures. Douching is a must for gay men who have intercourse for the obvious reason. But here's the thing. When we douche, we can accidentally wash away our bacterial buddies.
Good Bacteria
Our bodies are full of good bacteria and bad bacteria - the good ones help us;
- Fight off harmful bacteria.
- Help with digestion - help break down food so our body can use it for energy.
- Keep things balanced - make sure everything in our gut is just right.
Douching - Bad Bacteria - BO
So douching wash away bacteria - good ones as well as bad ones. Soon new bacteria will be formed. But bad bacteria from the food you consume will form quicker than good bacteria.
What it means is that harmful bacteria can party hard before the good guys can catch them up. When there's an imbalance, our body can start to produce unpleasant smells.
Plus, without good bacteria, we're more likely to get sick. They play a big role in our overall health.
If you're regularly douching and notice some changes, you know it's time to take care of your body. Eat a lot of probiotic food - yogurt, fermented vegetables like sauerkraut and kimchi. Miso and tempeh will be good too. And - give your bottom some rest!
Did You Know?
Pedication Statistics
- Reduction in Hemorrhoid Symptoms: 50% reduction in hemorrhoid symptoms with consistent pelvic floor strengthening.
- Decrease in Pregnancy-Related Pelvic Pain: 70% of pregnant women report a decrease in pelvic pain with regular pelvic exercises.
- Reduction in Prostate Pain Symptoms: 60% of men with chronic prostatitis/chronic pelvic pain syndrome report symptom reduction.
- Adherence to Exercise Program: Only about 40% of individuals adhere to a recommended pelvic floor exercise program long-term.
Anal Intercourse FAQ
Do I need to use lubricant?
Yes, you most definitely do. Penis itself is a "dry object", isn't it? And the anus is not designed to be penetrated without lubrication. It's painful without it, as you can imagine. The friction can tear the skin around the anus and it will lead to bleeding and even infection. So you do need a lubricant to help reduce friction and make insertion easier.
Is it painful the first time?
It's best to practice - either by yourself or with the help of your partner. Here are the steps you can take to get used to it for the first time.
- Douche.
- Lubricate your middle finger well and stick it in slowly. It's best to wear a latex glove so your nail won't scratch the skin around your anus.
- Turn your finger gently to massage your anus.
- When you feel used to it, apply more lubricant, stick two fingers (index and middle) in, and massage gently.
- When you are comfortable with it, try three fingers. Or try to gently open up your anus with two fingers. (Imagine making a V sign.)
Here are some tips;
- You need to be psychologically relaxed. If you don't feel ready, neither does your anus. Don't force it. Stop and try another day - you'll be fine. Believe me.
- And whether you're ready or not, if it feels unbearable, stop and try again the next day. Try every day until you feel comfortable.
- Needless to say, if you have piles or any medical issues, don't do it! Get your health issues sorted first.
- DO NOT use any other small & short object instead of your finger. Imagine it's gone inside and you can't get it out! Use something long enough (e.g. a small dildo) if you must.
Does "too much anal sex" make your anus too loose?
It's hard to answer this question. It is said that regular intercourse can make the sphincter muscles weaken over time, so you may have less control when you pass gas and stools.
On the other hand, there is actually no scientific evidence to suggest that too much anal intercourse can permanently stretch out the anus. It is even said that regular pedication can help the muscles strengthen.
Sphincter muscles can stretch out when in use and you're relaxed, and close when not in use.
Did You Know?
Pedication Statistics
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Can You Feel The "Load"?
When a man ejaculates inside you, can you feel it? Very unlikely. Your rectum is a hollow cave. Although it's lined with a thin layer of tissue with nerve endings, the wall is not as sensitive as anus. The amount of ejaculated semen is only a spoonful or two. You don't feel the shot.
This is such an informative post! I’ve been in a long-term relationship with my partner, and we’ve found that the timing is most important when it comes to anal sex. It’s not just physical but also like you say, the release of endorphins definitely enhances the experience for us.
Douching is, oh yeah. But if you do too much every day it affects body odor. I’ve experienced that personally and always need to make sure to eat yoghurt to keep good bacteria in my tummy. And no, I don’t think your anus gets 'loose' from too much anal sex. The muscles are pretty elastic and can return to their normal state.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Vincent.
I’ve always been interested in understanding more about how anal intercourse works. It’s fascinating to learn about the anatomy and emotionally.
I didn't realize how much feel-good hormones, like endorphins work in the experience. But I’ve always wondered, does having a lot of anal sex actually affect the muscle tone in your anus long-term? Like, does it really 'loosen' things up over time? So interesting for me. Thank you for the brave post.
Thanks for your comment, Jon.
Honestly, this was a great read. I never thought too much about the science behind anal intercourse, but it makes sense now with the whole anatomy breakdown. The feel-good hormones part totally makes sense, especially during those intimate moments. But I’m still a bit confused about rectal douching. Like, does it really lead to body odor or is that just a myth? And as for the whole 'looseness' thing, I’ve heard mixed opinions on that. Personally, I think it’s more about how you approach it, rather than how often you do it.
LOL, who knew anal sex had so much science behind it? Feel-good hormones, muscle elasticity…sounds like a biology lesson I can get behind (pun intended). Seriously though, I’ve always been curious if too much anal can actually make things 'loose.' Some friends swear it does, but I’ve never noticed anything like that. And rectal douching leading to body odor? Never heard of that one before! Is that for real, or just an urban legend
As someone who's been sexually active for years, I found this post really enlightening. There’s so much more to anal intercourse than just the physical act. The emotional aspect plays a huge role, especially with the release of endorphins and the feeling of closeness it brings.
I’ve also heard some myths about 'looseness' from frequent anal sex, but I think it’s all about moderation and how you approach it. It’s the same as any other muscle in your body—it needs time to rest and recover. Thanks for shedding light on these topics!"
Thanks for your comment, appreciate it.
I’m not entirely sure I buy into the whole 'feel-good hormones' aspect being such a big part of anal sex. Sure, there’s an emotional connection, but I think it's overhyped. Also, about rectal douching, while I understand the need for cleanliness, I have never experienced any issues with body odor after doing it. That part seems like a bit of a stretch. As for the 'looseness' factor, I think that’s largely a myth too. Muscles are designed to stretch and contract, and they tend to go back to normal after sex.
Thank you for writing this. Anal intercourse can be a sensitive topic for a lot of people, but it’s refreshing to see it being discussed openly and from a scientific perspective. The emotional dynamics are something that people don’t often talk about, but it’s such an important part of the experience. The release of feel-good hormones makes it more than just a physical act, and it can really deepen a connection between partners. As for the concerns about 'looseness,' I don’t think that’s something people should worry about too much—it’s a muscle, and it bounces back.
This is a fascinating deep dive into the complexities of anal intercourse, especially in the gay community. I found the part about the emotional dynamics really intriguing. We don’t often talk about how hormones like endorphins can enhance the experience, both physically and emotionally. As for rectal douching, it’s a pretty common practice, but I’ve never thought about whether it impacts body odor. I also think the fear of becoming 'too loose' is largely unfounded—anal muscles are incredibly resilient and tend to recover fairly quickly, similar to other muscles in the body.
Great breakdown of the anatomy involved in anal intercourse! It's really helpful to see this kind of information laid out so clearly. As for rectal douching, it’s definitely a common practice in the gay community, and while it can sometimes cause irritation, I’ve never noticed any changes in body odor because of it. Also, the idea that too much anal sex can make your anus loose is pretty much a myth. The muscles in the anus are elastic, so unless there’s trauma or damage, they’ll maintain their tone.
Interesting post! I’ve always heard about the emotional side of anal sex, but the science behind it is something I hadn’t thought about. The idea that hormones like endorphins play a role in the experience makes a lot of sense. As for rectal douching and body odor, I haven’t had any issues with that personally. And I don’t think too much anal sex will make your anus 'loose'—it’s a muscle, and muscles are meant to stretch and return to their normal state.