How to Look Younger At 50, Or…

Men at the age of 50. Which subject interests us more; how to look younger or how to age gracefully? You'll find plenty of tips on Google on how to look younger at 50, but if you only picked "some" of those rules to follow you could end up looking desperate.

Cosmetic and clothing advice - pluck your eyebrows, slap on some glossy moisturizer, wear a multi-colored hoodie, and Voila! C'est grotesque! Here we are again, we'd have to follow other tips to keep the physical & mental strength; regular exercise, eat more vitamin & mineral-rich food, stop smoking, and drink less. And to top it all, not to get depressed!

They say hanging out with young boys will keep you in fresh spirits... Sure, youngsters are always up for something new. But if you think you're getting on with them, they're probably paying respect to you as some old, wise person. If you think you're keeping up with them, they're probably slowing their pace down for you.

Is 50 The New 20?

On the other hand, the term "aging gracefully" can be very broad. Some say "50 Is The New 20" - I think it's such an embarrassing slogan. What did we use to call back in the 1990's, teenage girls going half naked, getting pissed, loud, and cocky? Girl Power. This is equivalent to that. 50 is never the new 20, except that the average mortality rate is slightly lower now than it used to be.

You can age gracefully by accepting all sorts of mid-life crises you encounter and going with the flow. But this is just a self-content and it could leave you as a sad grumpy old fart. Isolating yourself from not just younger generations but potentially from the entire world.

You can take the complete opposite approach and try to appear to age gracefully by trying very hard - weekly yoga, Mediterranean diet, and no more indulging e.g. booze & fags. However by doing all this...will you really "find your inner-self"? And will that reflect your social lifestyle really positively? You have to restrict yourself from something you never used to have, which means you may not become entirely happy. Essentially you could be pretending to be graceful.

Would You Challenge Monica Porter?

I love Monica Porter - she's a London-based journalist, will be 63 next month, and looks like she's in her 40's. She keeps such an amazing appearance. How she beds boys in their 20s is a wonder, and how she doesn't find love in her own age may be her own problem, but she tells her honest views on typical middle-aged men she meets. And I like defending ourselves by finding out the reasons why, and what we should do.

In her Daily Mail article last year she said;

In my view, today’s middle-aged British men are rather lost at sea. They’re not great at grooming, mistakenly taking their lead from the young. I mean, designer stubble can look sexy on a cute 26-year-old, but it makes a 62-year-old look like a disheveled pensioner.

As I am just about to say that's because (a) a cute 26-year-old would look sexy wearing a Royal Mail sack and (b) a 62-year-old man wouldn't check himself in the mirror every 1/2 hour like when he was 26... Monica goes on;

My pet hate is the man in a trainspotter-style anorak, with a pot belly boldly protruding over his trouser belt. Dear-oh-dear. You wouldn’t get blokes like that in France or Italy. Mature women nowadays are all too aware of the importance of taking care of the face, hair, and body, and of dressing well in order to hold the interest of the opposite sex. Why don’t older men think the same rules apply to them?

I think it applies to both British men and women. There are many fat & ugly women in tracksuits over here too (sorry) Women are much more self-conscious than men therefore they hide their pot belly and saggy boobs. Women possessing such liabilities instead of assets daren't ask men out. Men on the other hand can be arrogant enough to ignore their own hideous belly and try seducing someone gorgeous like Monica.

She also talks about the attitudes men under 30 have;

Used to the notion of equality between the sexes, they are more spontaneous and natural. If they think you look sexy, they tell you. If they want to have sex, they tell you. If they disagree with you, they tell you.

This is an interesting bit. Since the age of 3, we've all developed a skill to be polite, and not to blatantly disagree in order to keep happy relationships. Along the way, we've also learned the skill to provoke, be controversial, and be rude just to see the reaction. Then as we grow older and wiser, gentlemanship has become much more natural. A middle-aged person with a direct attitude is not considered pretty. But maybe Monica's telling us not to be afraid and to say what we want to say. Just be careful of the thin line between spontaneity and being a grumpy old fart.

How To Look Younger At 50 IS How To Appear To Age Gracefully

So to sum it all up. It takes much, much more energy and effort to look fabulous for 50+. You need to;

1. Keep fit. Moderate exercise may not be enough to lose all your excess fat.
2. Grooming is essential and you need to keep checking all over yourself as you used to when you were young - I wouldn't say every 1/2 hour, but every morning at least.
3. No fag or booze, watch what you eat.
4. Pretend your life is easy & fabulous.
5. Don't get depressed and don't get tired!

Do you think this is something you can manage???